How do I deal with a house without shoes? | ET REALITY


Feet! They are among the most controversial and least discussed parts of the body. I know people who cringe at the sight of other people’s feet, and we all know people who fetishize feet. They can have calluses, blisters, hair, become hard and poorly cared for. It also smells bad.

In fact, foot distress may be one of the reasons we spend so much time thinking about our shoes and why the growing trend toward shoeless homes can be so difficult to deal with.

Without a doubt, this is an American problem. In many cultures, taking off your shoes when entering someone’s home is natural; It is a sign of respect. In those cultures it is also expected, so visitors and hosts are generally prepared for the eventuality.

As for why this practice may be on the rise, there is a theory that going indoors without shoes is potentially healthier, since shoes contain germs. That makes some sense, especially after the emergence of Covid-19, although the Times Science section delved into the studies and found that the matter was not necessarily clear. Then there’s the argument that it simply keeps the house cleaner (also true).

However, if you plan an outfit down to the shoes, it can be disorienting to suddenly have to re-evaluate it, especially if you’re attending a festive event, like a dinner party. And that doesn’t even begin to get into the psychological connections between footwear and adulthood and the way going barefoot can make you feel strangely helpless.

It’s not as bad as showing up for an exam in your underwear, but it’s not that far off. After all, by taking off your shoes you may be revealing something you didn’t intend to show the world, whether it’s bunions or the weird socks you normally keep hidden.

Personally, I won’t forget the experience of dressing to go out in a favorite pair of flared pants that must be worn with heels to achieve the full-legged effect for miles only to arrive at an apartment and be asked to take off said heels. , at which point I had to roll up my hems and felt like a hobbit.

Still, whether you like it or not, if you arrive at someone’s house and they ask you to take off your shoes, you should take off your shoes.

That means, said Karla Martínez, head of content at Vogue Mexico and Latin America, that the best approach involves preventive measures. Dress as if you might be asked to take off your shoes. Check socks for holes and stockings for runs.

Ferdinando Verderi, a creative director who has worked with Versace and Google, said that when he lived in Sweden, it was common practice to come in without shoes and, as a result, he developed an entire wardrobe of socks. Cousin!

If you really don’t want to take your shoes off, Jefferson Hack, co-founder of Dazed Media, who is strongly pro-shoes on, suggested wasting time at the entrance to see if other guests feel the same way, it’s best to persuade the host to relax the rules without (ahem) stepping on anyone’s toes.

Then remember this riddle. And, if the shoe is on the other foot and you are a host who wants guests to not wear shoes, make it a policy to always warn your guests.

Each week on Open Thread, Vanessa will answer a reader’s fashion-related question, which you can submit to her anytime via email either Twitter. The questions are edited and condensed.

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